YOU AND YOUR HOME ARE SAFE, HOW CAN YOU HELP OTHERS?

Many of us are still trying to make sense of the devastation that has impacted our neighbors in Pacific Palisades and Alta Dena. The extent of the physical and emotional damage of these fires is almost incomprehensible and those who have not been directly impacted may be at a loss as to how to help. Although there has been an amazing outpouring of donations of food, clothing and even shelter, this is just the beginning of a long, drawn out process to recover even a small sense of life before the fires.

There is a lot of advice for the fire victims, next actions, agencies to contact, etc, most are just living day by day. They are grieving.  It is not uncommon for people to experience a range of emotions such as grief, anxiety, anger or depression in the aftermath of a devastating fire. The sentimental value of items lost in a fire alone can be immeasurable.

If you know of someone who has been impacted by loss, here are a few guidelines to help.

Be present and there to let them talk about the devastation. It is best to just listen and validate their feelings, don’t ask for details or push them as to their next move. You can provide immediate needs like food, clothing, temporary shelter and help them connect to the resources available. Remember that at this time, they may not be ready for donations of furniture, appliances, etc. They need a place and people to be with who can provide them security and a feeling of safety.

Grief from losing everything in a fire isn’t just about objects – it is about the loss of security, a sense of normalcy, a fear of the future. It is grief of many layers and they may only be able to deal with the top layers initially. Your compassion and support will be needed for a very long time.

Right now they need your practical and emotional support as they wade through their new reality. Moving forward, you can assist with paperwork, research and connections with support agencies. Be prepared to be around for the long haul – when the focus on the fires starts to diminish, the need will still be there and the best you can do is to be there for them as well.

Our next blog will provide a list of organizations that can provide emotional support to those affected by the wildfires.